Here we go again

Well at least that lasted a little while, well for my granddaughters a few months, for my grandson she hung on a little longer.  By June of 2011 Missing Mom had left the babies again, except this time the baby's daddy took the girls and DSS placed GS with me.  It lasted 3 weeks because DSS did not want to take custody of him and would only investigate the claim of abandonment.
For months I supported her in her fight with babys daddy, paid for a lawyer, gave up the guardianship because I believed she had really turned a corner in her life, that she wanted to be mama, that being a mama was way more important than drinking or just tending to her own needs.
WRONG!! WRONG and WRONG!
So the babies have not seen her since July 2011, and grandson was being dragged along through her sometimes brutal lifestyle of violence and drinking.  We have not talked, missing mama and I, I had enough of her sucking the life out of me, and put my foot down.  So she would let me see grandson maybe once a month for a few hours, until a month ago, when she let him spend the night!!! I was so happy!
This weekend GS called "unci I want to visit you" of course you can!  Can I spend the night? of course you can!  I was so excited to be able to spend time with my now 5 year old grandson.  Well Sunday comes along, get a text "my car broke down can you bring him to me?"  Of course I can.  We arrive, no Missing Mama!!!! He is again crushed telling me "Unci, what am I gonna do?" crying the whole time.  I waited till Monday afternoon no word from her.  I went to the courthouse and filed for guardianship again.
God, haven't I been here before! I never wanted to be here again!!! But I will not stand by and allow her to do this to him.  I don't know if our relationship will ever be the same, I love her but I can't stand her decisions she has made, or that she does not give a thought to her children, that I will never ever understand.  So our hearing is later on this month, and I know it will be a fight, she told me today she does not need help and she was saying goodbye to GS before she goes to the city where she lives, I am wrong and she is right.  That is how sick she is, she really believes its ok to continue to leave your children.
When they dropped him off on Saturday, there was mention of an ear ache.  I had to give him pain relievers all weekend and a heating pad.  As soon as I got my order, I took him to the ER, ear infection, pink eye and some kind of fungal growth on his head!  Lord please help me through this!

Almost A Year

Almost a year has passed since missing mama has had her baby boy back and her little girls. She is doing well, staying sober taking care of her babies! She has learned so much about herself, most of all that she can do this! She can make it on her own. Her babies still have a hard time thou. This weekend they were here G S was on a time out for not listening to his mama. She told me she was going to the store and he was with me. He went to look for her and she was gone, I found him just sobbing scared she had left him, he was so sad.... so even though she has been with him for almost a year he still has fear in his heart, poor GS I hope this does not mark him for life.
Its nice just to be unci once more, not to have to worry or have to feel like I have to do it all over again, I am no longer the relucant Unci but the Happy Unci!

New Year New Beginnings

Missing momma has had the GS for almost four months now. She is working and has all her babies with her. She is staying strong and keeping her family together and I am so proud of all she is doing to keep it together. She left my home and went to the near by city, of course GS is so happy to be with his mom, and I am so happy too!!!
I missed him so much, but he is where he belongs in his mother's loving arms. I am glad to be able to move on with my life also. I have a new job and have moved in with my aging mother. Life throws us so many curves and we have to be able to stay on the road, lol. Its a good thing I am a good driver.
I am glad my children are getting on with their lives even if I don't always like or agree with the direction they take, it is after all their lives, live in peace my babies!

A Fall From The Wagon

So I went home for the weekend, and in my heart I just knew something was wrong. We get home Sunday me and grandson. I took him with me so Missing Mom could work, took the baby to her father. When I spoke to her on Saturday she mentioned that the drunk family was there. I knew from that moment things would not be good. She calls me at work on Monday, telling me that she lost her job. Right away she tried to lie about why she lost her job, but I knew she was lying and confronted her about it. Yes she just never went to work! Instead she was getting HIGH! or so she says, but I believe she was drinking.
Her first thought to leave, to go to where my other daughter is and get applications for apts and jobs. I told her again I believe she needs to go to treatment. She just does not get it. So I have to prepare to take grandson away from her again, because the deal is she is here and he is here or she is gone and he stays here. I will not let him be at risk. I don't want to hold her hostage, but I am also not putting grandson at risk.
It so sad because he is so desperate for her love and attention. All he wants is for here to pay attention to her. I will pray for her to have the wisdom to do what is right.

All is Well On the Home Front

Things are going as good as they can at the moment. Missing Mama still here and working, taking care of her babies. She seems happy, and planning looking forward to her future taking it one step at a time. She is saving her money, trying to get her car running this weekend. Taking her job seriously, never late, never calling in.
The babies are happy. Grandson had an adjustment period. It took him awhile to get into the groove. He had a few meltdowns but is doing so much better now. He is just his happy go lucky self. He is growing so much, he is 3 1/2 now and is so fun to watch him grow and listen to how his little mind works.
I am doing much better now too. Its nice to have the littlest one here, she is barely a year and is soo soo cute. She does not walk yet and does not want to walk either!!! but she is a sweety, gives kisses says hi when she sees me. After a long weekend of camping I came home and she gave me a bear hug saying grrrr and she squeezed me tight. She learned that one from watching her brother.
I am enjoying being Unci!!!

Still Here

Missing mama is still here, and GS could not more happy. She also got a job and seems to be happy herself, now if we could get her man to get a job all will be well. GS has his moments but all in all he has come around and is actually talking to me and sitting on my lap. We had a great weekend swimming in the new pool. He just keeps on having accidents in his pants don't know what that's about. I bought him a buzz lightyear doll and one morning he got up, sat on my lap and said "Unci, I love my buzz lightyear" it was so cute.
His little sister is here also she will be a year in a month, she is so cute and chunky, took her a minute to get used to me, but she follows me around every where now. All is well for now

Missing Mama is Back

Last weekend I called the girls daddy to see if he would come and help me with some projects and low and behold who is he with Missing Mama. I asked for her to talk to GS and he just cried and cried saying he wanted to see her. Then I got on the line and asked why she had not seen her son in 6 weeks. She said because I was mad at her! I told her that had nothing to do with her and her son and don't use me as the reason.
When they got there she then asked if she could still come to Pine Ridge. I told her yes, but she brought the girls dad with her. Not only that she got the youngest baby back, little Button Eyes. She is so cute, 10 months old now and has not been with her mother since she was 4 months old.
GS very angry at me.... and very emotional. I only hope this works, but of course she has not went to treatment. We will see. I am not about to give up the guardianship until she has shown her changed self. I will not put him at risk again.
So we are all holed up in my little apartment. I cleaned out my spare room for them, and re arranged my life again. We shall see, with lots of prayers it works out ok.